Online Dating

As I begin to think about how I am going to handle this, I can’t help but to wonder why people, even in my own life, ask me to make a match for them.  Who qualified me as a match maker?  Are there even pre-requisites for this job? If Patty Stanger can do this, I sure as hell can.  Oh wait, except she gets paid millions to do it for a living.  And then again, she is also single.  Hmmmm.  I digress. Perhaps because I love people, maybe because I have no emotional connection or attachment or maybe because I have been through the dating game myself and have no time for games and will make sure the guy knows that?  Sometimes I think that people find comfort in giving me the voice that they don’t have and other times I often wonder why it is so easy for me to give advice or find solutions for everyone else’s life yet I can’t figure out my own.

I personally know quite a few people who have found successful relationships that have ended in marriage from dating websites. Any time this topic comes up, which is quite often, oddly enough, there are just as many people who know someone who has been successful as well.  If this online dating thing is so successful, why is everyone not creating a profile, taking self pics, and handing out business cards with a link to their dating profile? Although we have come a long way with technology and social media, online dating isn’t as taboo as it used to be but I still get the are you crazy stare when I suggest it to the friends who are in great distress about finding “the one,” yet refuse to succumb to an online website.

Is it because they are scared or is online dating beneath them?  I guess I would be nervous that I would be setting myself up with a killer or some creep is going to lure me in an alley somewhere, then again, whose to say that the amazingly handsome guy that your beer goggles just caught wind of at the end of the bar is any safer?  Everyone has a misconception that guys in a bar are only looking for one thing and chances are that is the case but stranger things have happened.  I also shudder to think that people would actually pay a monthly fee for a dating website just to get a piece of action.  Wait, is that considered prostitution? Ha!  In all seriousness, there are plenty of sites that exist for that reason, not prostitution, but a place where adult friends can find each other.  I would think that someone who is on what appears to be a legitimate site such as would genuinely be interested in finding their soul mate.

2 Responses

  1. Kim
    Kim October 27, 2013 at 6:57 pm · Reply

    I met my husband 9 years ago on We would have never met otherwise. He lived in Ft. Meade Fl and worked in Deerfield beach; I lived and worked in Lakeland FL – they are not that far apart (35 min or so) but the likely hood that our paths would have crossed without is slim to none.

    1. Espree Devora
      Espree Devora November 1, 2013 at 2:22 am · Reply

      That’s awesome! I used to live in Fort Lauderdale actually. I have met a ton of people who met their spouses using Match.

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